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Nature Vs Nurture

You may have the belief that you have to be born with the ability to talk to women, that it’s either in you or not. When you go to a bar and see a guy having the time of his life, with both of his arms around beautiful girls, while you sit there in the corner with a warm beer in your hand having not said a word to a pretty girl all week, it can be hard to imagine yourself being just like him. One year after I got into the game I went to a wine festival with two female coworkers. I was approaching girls pretty regularly by then but it was mostly confined to loud clubs. Walking around this farm in Virginia on a 100 degree day, I saw a tall, juicy girl wearing high-heel cork sandals matched with a skimpy outfit. I noticed that girls were checking her out as much as the guys. I stalked her at this wine festival, fantasizing about her like any other guy. An hour later I looked to my left and saw her standing under a tent with her back towards me. I walked up to her from behind and touched her upper-back tattoo. I asked, "What does this mean?" I banged her three weeks later. I wouldn’t have believed you if you told me a year earlier that I would pull one of the hottest girls at a huge wine festival by sneaking up on her and touching her. To me that would be impossible, something that just isn’t in me, something that I wasn’t born to do.

Not more than 10% of men have the innate ability to talk to girls, build attraction, and rack up more notches in a year than most men get in their lifetimes. To them, playing the game is not work―it’s like hanging out with friends. For reasons you can maybe trace to their genes, parents, or childhood, they became very good with women, and possess a skill so ingrained that they can’t even explain what it is they do. So what options do the other 90% have, like myself? Do I settle for a fat, ugly woman? Do I wait until I meet a homely girl at work to marry? Do I get rich in the hopes that I can use my wealth to land a hot but shallow girl? Or do I study the game like I would study a subject in school? You don’t need to be born with game―like sailing or motorcycle riding you can become proficient at it with practice and training. If you think you have flaws that prevent you from becoming good, realize that the naturals have flaws as well. When guys see me approach pretty girls in a bar with ease, they don’t attribute my ability to years of practice; they tell me I was born to do this, perhaps to make it easy for them to rationalize their lack of action. Fact is I got good at it using old-fashioned hard work.

"Look, I’m sure with some work I can be good at the game, but I just want to find one girl who is hot and nice. I don’t want to spend every week in some smoky club talking to a lot of snobby bitches."

This is a statement I hear often from men who believe that they should get an immediate return on their game investment. But just like with stocks, it takes time to see any meaningful return, especially since hot and nice girls are always in high demand. There is a very long line of guys out there who are willing to do almost anything to be with quality girls, you included. What do you bring to the table? Can you attract her better than another man? Why should she sleep with you? Unless you answered, "Because my game is tight and I think I’m the shit," you’re not going to get her. Simply being nice to her in hopes she wants to bang is not going to work. While she may not want a player, she does want a quality man who is experienced and knows what he’s doing. It’s important to realize that it will take a significant investment on your part before you start getting quality girls.